I announced a month ago that I would launch my wellness-coaching business Feb. 1, not taking into account that Feb. 1 would be a Sunday.
My Sabbath. The Lord’s Day.
I used to treat Sundays casually, but now I’m more intentional about slowing down the merry-go-round that is life in the third millennium.
I take a nap every Sunday after church, and I take that nap seriously. Like it’s an appointment I can’t miss. I sometimes do miss it, but the reason has to be something really important. For instance, next Sunday afternoon I’ll travel out of town to sit with kinfolk and witness the ordination of my cousin as a deacon at his church. That’s important to me. God and family.
Wedding showers, baby showers, birthday parties on Sunday afternoons? I have to confess that my Sunday chill time is more important than those things – unless the event is relaxing for me, or it’s for family. (The two don’t always coincide!)
This stance may sound rigid, but as I age – as my full-time job takes a toll on me, body and soul – taking one day off a week to “remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy” is not just a spiritual pursuit but a practical one. I began needing the day off a few years ago, when I worked 60 hours a week at a job I hated. I was angry and tense the entire 11 months I worked there, and I’m convinced that if I had stayed I would be dead today. (Coincidentally or not, it was toward the end of my time there that I was diagnosed with a heart problem. On the plus side, it has made me grateful for every job I’ve had since.)
Sunday naps began as a matter of survival for me. Now they’re a matter of renewal and preparation for the week ahead. I’ve often said I can’t survive my workweek without My Sunday Nap.
Being the concrete-sequential, left-brained thinker that I am, I was disappointed that I wouldn’t be launching the wellness business on the first day of the month, as planned. (So perfect for bookkeeping, right?)
But Sabbath is a big deal to me.
So I decided to use it as a reminder to myself, and as my first admonition as a wellness coach, one day early:
If you are not on a conscious journey to wellness or wholeness (whatever you consider that to be), you should consider it. My goal is to spur everyone I come in contact with to be everything that God created him or her to be. Live up to your full potential. If you don’t have things in place that help you do that, work on putting them in place.
Start simple. “Baby steps,” I always say.
Simple means something like a Sunday nap. Or a Saturday nap. Or a Wednesday nap. Make your “Sabbath” whatever day works for your schedule. Just … slow down. Say no to some things. Say yes to yourself. Don’t worry that others will misunderstand; some will, but that’s OK. (Plenty of people don’t understand why I decline Sunday afternoon party invitations.)
Be mindful. Look for opportunities to be kind to yourself. To disconnect when you need to. To connect when you need to, but with people, not gadgets, or to-do lists, or the office. To recharge. (I understand that not everyone is like me. For me, crowds drain; for my husband, they energize.)
Begin figuring out what you need to do to be well and whole. Start your journey now.
And if you need me, I’m here.