Blogging from A-Z – family, faith & Friday nights

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “F” … in case you couldn’t tell. (I’m blogging the alphabet in April. Read the details at Suzy & Spice here or the Blogging from A-Z page here.)

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For the past few months, Bruce and I have been using Friday night TV as an excuse to spend time with my mom; otherwise I might go two weeks without actually laying eyes on her (we do talk by phone almost daily). My husband of the more-fluid schedule actually spends more time with Mom than I do!

On Friday nights, instead of taking over Mom’s TV as we do in the fall (college football, anyone?), we watch her shows: Hawaii Five-O and Blue Bloods.

At first I watched those shows just because she wanted to. Bruce and I disconnected our TV in 2012, and that decision has been so great that I didn’t want to get hooked on another series (NCIS and an obsession with Law & Order reruns leap to mind). Part of the beauty of canceling satellite is that instead of veg’ing out at our house we’ll go hang with Mom when we just need some down time at the end of a long week.

At first, despite the fact that Blue Bloods stars Tom Selleck (I was a huge Magnum, P.I. fan in the 1980s), I didn’t want to watch. Let’s face it: Frank Reagan is not as hunky and dashing as Thomas Magnum (and, hey, no red Ferrari). It was hard, at first, to see my favorite ’80s star age. And I thought the new Hawaii Five-O was just Friday night filler.

But, as I began getting to know the characters, I realized that these were more than just cop shows. Each one, in its unique way, shows me characters with … well, character.

This is not my father’s Hawaii Five-O (except for the awesome theme song). I used to watch the original series with Dad, although I don’t remember a lot about the original – just the action stuff, which was typical of 1960s and ’70s cop shows. On the new version, character development is prominent and relationships are important: Besides the friendship between the main characters, single dad Danny strives to teach his young daughter right from wrong, even when he fumbles it sometimes; Steve takes his big-brother role seriously in guiding and protecting his sister; and the cops act with integrity – at least the ones who want to stay on the team. 🙂

Integrity is an even bigger theme on Blue Bloods. In fact, I’d go so far as to call it one of the main characters.

It’s the thing I like best about the show.

Set in New York City, the show is about an Irish-Catholic family of law-and-order types. There is NYPD CommissionerFrancis “Frank” Reagan; his father, Henry (former commissioner); sons Danny and Jamie, both NYPD cops; and daughter Erin, an assistant district attorney. Three children and Danny’s wife (a nurse) round out the family. Another of Frank’s cop sons, Joe, was killed in the line of duty. (Not sure whether that happened before the show began or simply before I began watching.)

The most interesting characters to me are the conservative Frank and his liberal granddaughter, Nicky. While their views often differ, they approach things from the same set of values, and an air of mutual respect and love is present in their conversations.

My favorite scene in each episode is Sunday dinnertime. The family members gather around a big table – all nine of them. They begin with a prayer (unfortunately generic and rote, albeit sincere), and the dinner-table rules seem to be “no electronics” and mutual respect (you can tell some ground rules were set a long time ago). The topics can get complex, but there is always an atmosphere of civility and fair play in their interactions.

You can expect the Henry and Danny characters to be hardline, Nicky and Jamie to take a more existential view and Erin to be somewhere in between. Frank wants to be fair and forthright and tends to err on the side of conservative.

I like that the show wrestles with difficult questions – some that, no doubt, the real NYPD has dealt with and still grapples with. I don’t know the realities of New York City’s justice system, but I imagine this show glosses over some of the touchier issues. This is television, after all, and, while I know nothing about the show’s creators or writers, I’m sure they try to avoid controversy.

Every week, Frank, as commissioner, comes up against some type of moral dilemma, and I like watching him wrestle it out. He deals with the press, popular opinion, his PR guy, his granddaughter and sometimes his children, who face dilemmas of their own. I appreciate that the writers include the family’s faith, even though most of the references are subtle.

Not every episode is tied neatly in a bow by the end, but, for the most part, I’m satisfied that Frank either 1) has handled the situation as best he can or 2) will begin looking at it from another perspective and be persuaded by one of his family members (or Garrett, his press guy) to change his mind.

It’s tough being commissioner of the largest police force in the nation. 🙂

A show with perfect characters would be boring, but I’m happy that on Friday nights I have role models to spend a couple of hours with, and this includes my family.

And if I keep watching Five-O, maybe one of these days I’ll hear those words I’ve been waiting for:

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TRIVIA QUESTION: Who can tell me which actress has guest starred on both the new Hawaii Five-O (as McGarrett’s aunt) and Magnum, P.I.? (On Magnum, which also was set in Hawaii, her character and Thomas ended up trapped in a bank vault.)

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Tomorrow: G is for God.

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Blogging from A-Z – Easter … everlasting life

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “E.” (I’m blogging the alphabet in April. Read the details at Suzy & Spice here or the Blogging from A-Z page here.)

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It seems wrong to be in the middle of a monthlong blogging challenge that excludes Sundays … when one of those Sundays is Easter.

And, if I had planned ahead, you would be reading this on Easter Sunday instead of the day after.

But, come to think of it, Easter is all about what happened After.

“He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Remember what he told you back in Galilee, that the Son of Man must be betrayed into the hands of sinful men and be crucified, and that he would rise again on the third day” (Luke 24:6-7, NLT).

In fact, the central theme of the Christian faith is about what happened after Jesus was crucified.

In his Easter sermon, my pastor quoted a favorite pastor and author, Tim Keller:

“If Jesus rose from the dead, then you have to accept all that he said; if he didn’t rise from the dead, then why worry about any of what he said? The issue on which everything hangs is not whether or not you like his teaching but whether or not he rose from the dead.”

There’s not much more to say than that. It sums it up. If Jesus had stayed in the grave, there would be nothing to hope for, nothing to live for, nothing to die for.

Nothing to talk about.

What you can hope for – trust in – is eternal life with Jesus Christ:

“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved” (Romans 10:9, English Standard Version).

If you would like to know more about having an everlasting relationship with Jesus and need to talk to someone about it, feel free to email me here:

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I want to leave you with two things:

 

Rejoice with me today, for …

HE IS RISEN!

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Tomorrow: F is for ??? (I don’t remember – I thought of the topic at work and left my list there!). Stay tuned.

Blogging from A-Z – debt-proof living

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “D.” (I’m blogging the alphabet in April. Read the details at Suzy & Spice here or the Blogging from A-Z page here.)

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By the time I met Mary, she had gotten her family into $100,000 of unsecured debt … and back out.

She scratched and clawed (and prayed) her way out of the hole.

And, because she has been to the bottom of the pit and climbed her way back out, dirt under her fingernails, sweat on her brow, wisdom under her cap, she has built an organization out of helping the rest of us do the same – or, better yet, not digging that pit in the first place.Kids_noBG_noShadow_200

I’ve never really met Mary Hunt, as in face to face, but I feel as though I know her. She’s so open and honest about her experiences, even keeping a sense of humor about it, that a person can’t help but feel an affinity for her.

I like the likes of Mary Hunt. She took a bad situation – really bad – worked through it, dignity a little bruised but mostly intact, and decided to devote her life to being a lifeguard for others who were drowning. (Sorry if I’m using too many metaphors, but what would you call the guardian of a pit?)

I’ve been following Mary since 1994. That’s when, as a new homeowner (my first house!), I heard her on a radio program and signed up for her newsletter. Back then it was called Cheapskate Monthly, and it arrived on white, 8.5×11 paper (8 pages) via snail mail. (I still have all my back issues.) The newsletter has evolved with the times, though, and is now Debt Proof Living (still monthly), complete with a website, a blog, several books (I have most of them), reader forums and electronic tools that will delight the heck out of you – if, like me, you’re a geek. (But you don’t have to be a spreadsheet nerd to benefit from them.)

I love Mary’s no-nonsense approach to answering reader mail; she tells it like it is. (She can smell a rationalization a mile away, and she doesn’t let people get away with excuses.) When you’ve aired your dirty laundry for the world to see, you somewhat lose the need to tiptoe around the truth. As a practical girl (so I’ve been told), I can appreciate Mary’s practicality. If you were drowning, would you rather see Kevin Costner

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… or Robert Shaw? (Remember, he ended up as shark food.)

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And, while we’re talking about transparency, I need to tell you this: Two years ago, I signed up for Debt Proof Living’s affiliate program. It’s why (finally, last fall) I added the DPL icon to my right sidebar at Suzy & Spice. (Go ahead, look to the right.) This means that if someone clicks through from here to DPL via that badge and makes a purchase, I get a little token of Mary’s appreciation (a small deposit to my bank account).

This is the first time I’ve ever mentioned the DPL affiliate ad. I didn’t want it to seem as though the only reason I posted about DPL was that I wanted you to buy something. I wanted the next time I wrote about Mary to be a genuine, heartfelt story about good stewardship and living below your means. In fact, I’ve started and rewritten and abandoned this post half a dozen times. (If I had to make my living in sales, my husband and I would starve.)

But this month’s A-Z blogging challenge seemed to be the perfect time for bringing up DPL (starts with D, right?). So, if you do visit Mary’s site, please enter via the affiliate badge at the right. But if you don’t, you’ll still be welcome here. 🙂

But wait – there’s more!

I absolutely cannot leave you without talking about the other financial organization I’m in love with.

Navigate-DVD-Series-224x300I’ve been a volunteer budget coach for several years, and I need you to know about the ministry that makes it possible: Compass – finances God’s way.

Compass takes things one step further and talks a lot about biblical stewardship. (Mary Hunt does, too, but not in such a visible way. Think crawl space, where your plumbing, electrical and HVAC might be out of sight, but they are nevertheless present, foundational and keeping your home’s systems on an even keel. That’s Mary. Compass is more like the carpet on your floors – soft and comforting yet firm enough to walk on, and obvious to any observer who enters the house or peeks inside the window.)

Compass founder Howard Dayton has been talking about money matters for a long time, too. Early in his business life, he undertook a study of the Scriptures to see what God’s word had to say about handling money. He was astonished to learn that the Bible has more than 2,350 verses on the topic.

Compass was founded on the idea of small-group Bible studies and one-on-one coaching, as Howard had witnessed the impact of those teaching platforms in his previous ministry experience.

I’ve read most of Howard’s books and can recommend any and all of them (I’ll even loan you one if you’re local). He’s also a supernice guy (I actually have met Howard), has a couple of radio programs and podcasts (MoneyWise and Hey Howard), and has one of the funniest sidekicks/co-hosts east of the Mississippi. I don’t know what Howard would be without Steve. (Yeah, I’ve met Steve, too.)

You can’t go wrong with Mary or Howard. If you’d like to know more – especially if your money runs out before your month does – poke around their sites, follow them on social media or post a comment below and I’ll help you sort it out.

Don’t you think it’s time?

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Monday: E is for Easter.

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Blogging from A-Z – Book review: ‘Crooked Letter, Crooked Letter’

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “C.” (I’m blogging the alphabet in April. Read the details at Suzy & Spice here or the A-Z page here.)

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TrixieBeldenI suppose I came by my love of mystery stories honestly.

My Grandma Tressie – Dad’s mother – would pass along her Agatha Christie paperbacks after she finished reading them. And she read them all.

I’m sure she read other things – I can’t know every possible thing she liked – but Agatha Christie is what I remember sharing with her. It was our thing. (That, and her Dell crossword puzzle books that came in the mail; she had a subscription.)

For me, it was Agatha Christie, Sherlock Holmes, Encyclopedia Brown, Nancy Drew/Hardy Boys … then Edgar Allan Poe and, starting in high school, Stephen King. I devoured every one of them. There was even a lesser-known girl detective, Trixie Belden, whose adventures I followed during grade school and junior high. Good thing I had a county library and school libraries to feed my habit – my parents would have gone broke keeping me in books.

Mystery, horror and crime stories were not all I read, but they’re what I remember most. Then I became an adult and turned to nonfiction as my mainstay. Forsook the love of my childhood.

So I hadn’t read a good mystery in years – forgot how much I loved them, in fact – until Crooked Letter, Crooked Letter.

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My monthly reading group’s March meeting coincided with bestselling author Tom Franklin’s visit to Lyon College, where he was awarded the Leila Lenore Heasley Prize. (I wrote about that evening here.) Before the event, I had nabbed Crooked Letter from the county library rather than downloading it to my Kindle app … just in case I didn’t like it.

I needn’t have worried.

Franklin’s book – a mystery about two disappearances a quarter-century apart, and the man suspected in both crimes – isn’t so much a crime story, in my opinion, as it is a story about a friendship.

“When [the investigator] left, Larry lay amid his machines, thinking of Silas, how time packs new years over the old ones but how those old years are still in there, like the earliest, tightest rings centering a tree, the most hidden, enclosed in darkness and shielded from weather. But then a saw screams in and the tree topples and the circles are stricken by the sun and the sap glistens and the stump is laid open for the world to see.”

The friendship starts when the boys are in grade school and, despite an event that causes them to part ways when they’re young, they remain a part of each other, past, present and future.

Many mystery/horror/suspense novels are short on character development – relying on action to the detriment of the story – but that’s not the case here. Franklin weaves dialogue (inner and outer), plot, action and scenery to good effect.

A writer from the South and of the South, he may use kudzu as a metaphor once or twice too often, but, on balance, this is a tale that I enjoyed thoroughly – definitely one of those can’t-put-down kinds of books.

There is plenty of action, to be sure. This isn’t a romance novel – it’s a mystery story. Lovers of suspense won’t be disappointed.

But the inside-the-character’s-head writing is why I like it so much:

“Larry never accompanied her to the fabricated metal building they used, understanding it was easier for a congregation to accept the mother of an accused killer than the killer himself, but, hungry for God, he would abstain from food when she did. He found the first skipped meals the hardest, the hunger a hollow ache. The longer he went without eating, though, the second day, the third, the pain would subside from an ache to the memory of an ache and finally to only the memory of a memory. Until you ate you didn’t know how hungry you were, how empty you’d become. Wallace had shown him that being lonesome was its own fast, that after going unnourished for so long, even the foulest bite could remind your body how much it needed to eat. That you could be starving and not even know it.”

Yes, it’s a mystery novel.

But much more than that, it’s a book full of beautifully descriptive thoughts and scenes and characters. It’s a tale of two friends, one black, one white.

It’s a must-read.

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Blogging from A-Z: Book review – ‘The Boys in the Boat’

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “B.” (I’m blogging the alphabet in April. Read the details at Suzy & Spice here or the A-Z page here.)

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Confession: I haven’t quite finished the book.

But I’ve finished enough to know that I can recommend, without hesitation, The Boys in the Boat: Nine Americans and Their Epic Quest for Gold at the 1936 Berlin Olympics by Daniel James Brown.

An author friend of mine, when I told him I was reading Unbroken (the story of 1936 Olympic runner and World War II veteran Louis Zamperini – read my review here), recommended The Boys in the Boat as my next read. Conrad specifically urged me to listen to the Audible.com version because of the wonderful narration by Edward Herrmann (God rest his soul).

I typically don’t listen to audio when I run outdoors, but lucky for me I was stuck with the treadmill for several weeks because of icy weather and short, dark days. 🙂

BoysInTheBoat_coverThis book, and Herrmann’s lovely, fluid reading of it, proves that nonfiction doesn’t have to be dry and boring. A good tale, well told, is like poetry, or music, and this one has been an exciting melodic discovery for me.

While I plod along on the ’mill with the book turned up loud, the minutes sail by. I can practically hear the swish-swoosh-swish of the water as the University of Washington crews practice their craft (and art, and mental game) in hopes of beating their University of California archrivals in the next regatta, or making it to the 1936 Olympics.

I can almost hear the voice of Englishman George Yeoman Pocock, who designed and built the boats our boys rowed in, as he explains to farm boy Joe Rantz how a racing shell takes shape. It’s obvious Pocock had a love affair with his boats, and the materials that went into making them:

“As Pocock talked, Joe grew mesmerized. It wasn’t just what the Englishman was saying, or the soft, earthy cadence of his voice, but the calm reverence with which he talked about the wood – as if there was something holy and sacred about it – that drew Joe in.

“ ‘The wood,’ Pocock murmured, ‘taught us about survival, about overcoming difficulty, about prevailing over adversity. But it also taught us something about the underlying reason for surviving in the first place: something about infinite beauty, about undying grace, about things larger and greater than ourselves, about the reasons we were all here.

“ ‘Sure, I can make a boat,’ he said, and then added, quoting the poet Joyce Kilmer, ‘but only God can make a tree.’ ”

Pocock wasn’t the only poet-at-heart. Brown, the book’s author, seems to have taken the topic of rowing and made a master’s thesis out of it, but not the kind that puts you to sleep (unless the thesis is a lullaby). Maybe Brown grew up with the sport; maybe not. However he came to possess the information, he’s an expert on his subject matter, and he makes it come alive, with beautiful and rich description.

We know the boys made it to the Berlin Olympics. We know the things Hitler did as he grew in power. We know who won medals in 1936 and who didn’t. That information is all in the history books.

But when you know the outcome of an event and you’re nevertheless breathless at the telling of it – can’t wait until tomorrow night when you get to read the next installment – well, that’s good storytelling, folks.

You can Google or Wiki the tale of these working-class “boys in the boat” – find out which of them made the team and whether they brought home Olympic gold – but save the cold, hard facts for after Brown has introduced you to his Boys in the Boat.

It’s worth its weight in gold.

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Tomorrow: C is for “Crooked Letter, Crooked Letter,” my review of another great book.

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Blogging from A-Z: Arkansas Children’s Hospital

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “A.” (I’m blogging the alphabet in April. Read the details at Suzy & Spice here or the A-Z page here.)

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For two days every March, the Little Rock radio station I listen to makes me cry on my way to work.

March is when Arkansas Children’s Hospital holds its annual Champions for Children Radiothon.

They’re shameless. (But in a good way.)

The radio hosts – who can get choked up right along with me – tell story after story of patients and their families whose lives have been touched by ACH staff, volunteers and donors. When they broadcast a little voice telling his or her story, I almost have to pull the car over. Waterworks. Every year.

Sheesh.

I would be a blubbering mess whether or not my own loved ones had been treated at Children’s. I’ve known countless families – from church, from work, from wherever – whose kids or grandkids have received treatment there. Heck, several years ago the woman I sat next to at work was treated in ACH’s burn unit after a plane crash in Little Rock. (The hospital’s burn center is the only one in Arkansas and treats adults, too.)

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TanyaTextBut I do have a family member who’s been treated at ACH. My cousin Tanya’s daughter Emily, now 9, has spent many days and nights at Arkansas Children’s Hospital, having been born with Wolff-Parkinson-White syndrome and spongiform cardiomyopathy. A mouthful, for sure. Em’s mom texted me a little more detail, at right.

In its list of Best Children’s Hospitals, U.S. News & World Report has recognized Arkansas Children’s Hospital for pediatric cardiology and heart surgery. ACH is also known for its teaching, its research and its patient care, especially for those most vulnerable among us: our children.

I could bring you any number of testimonials from folks I know who’ve experienced the care and compassion at ACH. But I’m going to let Tanya and Emily tell the story from their perspective:

“Our first experience with Arkansas Children’s Hospital was when our younger daughter, Emily, was seven days old. During the scariest moments of our lives, not only did the doctors, nurses and other staff members take amazing care of Emily, they also took care of us. From that moment on, I knew we were a team – her team.

“I had never been in a pediatric hospital before, so I’m always amazed at the creativity and lengths ACH goes to make their facility child-friendly. From the playgrounds and playrooms to the personalities and patience of the staff, it’s easy to see who gets priority around there.

“We were very encouraged by the fact that ACH has one of the best cardiovascular departments in the country. It is such a relief to feel confidence in the team that is taking care of your child. I’ve never once doubted them, or even felt skeptical, about what they were telling us.

“Emily goes back to ACH periodically, for examinations and testing. She doesn’t remember being ‘in’ the hospital, but she knows how special ACH is. (She still refers to it as HER hospital.) We should all be very thankful to have ACH nearby. We are very blessed.”

Here are a few things Emily likes about Arkansas Children’s Hospital.

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ARKANSAS CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL
1 Children’s Way
Little Rock, AR 72202
(501) 364-1100
http://www.archildrens.org

For more information about Arkansas Children’s Hospital, such as a map and directions to the hospital, printable maps of each floor, and so much more, click here.

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Tomorrow: B is for “The Boys in the Boat,” a book review.

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